Re: Forwarded comment on our Code of Conduct

I received the following reply after forwarding the initial message and am forwarding this anonymously as requested:

> There is conflict and there is conflict.
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> This email is about misunderstandings that happen.  
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> Sometimes it is that and sometimes it is power imbalance and/or rights violations.
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> They need to be parsed so misunderstandings get addressed fairly to both parties and the more serious complaints have different pathways and protections.

-Ralph

> On Nov 20, 2025, at 12:54, Ralph Swick <swick@w3.org> wrote:
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> The following email was received at our general mail address.  I forward it here in the event that this group wishes to consider any of the writer’s comments.
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>> Begin forwarded message:
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>> From: [redacted]
>> Subject: Code of Conduct missing addition
>> Date: November 18, 2025 at 20:33:34 EST
>> To: contact@w3.org
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>> Hey people :)
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>> I loved reading through your amazing code of conduct BUT it felt like a nightmare to not read about conflict resolution in a way that enables variation, instead of - it felt like for me reading - forcing peace upon both parties. Thats why I would love to read something like this: 
>> conflict is not a by product - its bad design.
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>> Consideration for point 14 Ode of Conduct.
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>> 3. Code of conduct
>> 3.14. The right to go separate ways — and the understanding that until that time, everything co-created belongs to both sides.
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>> Conflict is rarely a sign of “bad people”; it is often a sign of bad design: systems that do not allow all voices to move freely toward the place where they feel most alive, safe, and true.
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>> Sometimes the loudest voices are not “dominating” —
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>> they are signaling that something inside them is not yet free.
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>> In a healthy system:
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>> Everyone is allowed to express experiences of suppression.
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>> Anyone may state what they need in order to feel safe.
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>> We do not frame this as opposition or sides.
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>> We treat conflict as information, not as moral failure.
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>> We acknowledge that co-creation generates shared responsibility and shared ownership until a clean transition is intentionally designed.
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>> Freedom means multiple interpretations of life may coexist —
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>> and each person or group retains the right to move toward the most appealing, most resonant interpretation without being punished for it.
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>> Designing for collective well-being means building structures where:
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>> Divergence is allowed.
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>> Separation does not equal betrayal.
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>> Expression of pain is welcomed, not pathologized.
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>> And co-created value stays in integrity until a fair, mutual transition can be made.
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>> This is not about winning
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>> or being right
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>> or silencing discomfort.
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>> It is about designing a social architecture where everyone — including those who struggle, shout, or shake — can move from constraint into freedom.
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Received on Thursday, 20 November 2025 19:50:05 UTC