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Date: 25 Mar 2005 00:43:01 -0000
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                     Awesome Confidence Newsletter
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                      http://www.confidenceworld.com

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                         Thursday, March 24, 2005
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Hi Friend,

Welcome to another newsletter!

In this edition we'll be covering:

* Article - Freeing Ourselves From The Downward Spirals Of Life
* Quotes
* Article - How To Speak Well

That's it for now, see you next time!

Sean
http://www.confidenceworld.com

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Freeing Ourselves From The Downward Spirals Of Life
- By W. Bradford Swift 
 
Some people call them vicious circles or cycles. I prefer to
think of them as downward spirals of life. Those periods that we
can all become trapped in like the whirlpool of water as it 
drains from the tub. If we're not careful and mindful these 
downward spirals can suck the life right out of us. Here are a
few simple and effective steps you can use to free yourself of
such life sucking periods. 


1.NOTICE THE SPIRAL YOU'RE IN 

As is so often true awareness is the first step to intervention.
Much of the power of a downward spiral comes from our continuing
to be unaware of the direction of our life. Like a whirlpool, a
downward spiral's power picks up strength and speed the longer 
we're in it; so it follows that the sooner we become aware we
are trapped in a downward spiral, the easier it will be to
change the direction of our life. It's often helpful to remember
a downward spiral reversed becomes a spiral of fulfillment. 

2.ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE FULLY PRESENT TO YOUR LIFE 

When you 1st notice you're in a downward spiral, the tendency is
to quickly retreat in an effort to free yourself. This initial
reaction is often based in fear and may only exasperate the
spiral. Instead, take time to notice what is happening from a
detached position. Witness you 're life by stepping outside of
it for awhile. One simple way to do this is to imagine you are
in a movie theater reviewing the "Story of My Life" movie. Watch
and Observe. 

3.CONSCIOUSLY RELEASE THE THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS 

As you begin to "Dismantle" the downward spiral, be sure you
release and let go of the disempowering thoughts and emotions.
You might envision a large bottomless trash can in front of you
into which you toss each thought and each emotion attached to
the thought or you can write it all down then burn the paper,
thus releasing their hold on you. 

4.RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO INDULGE 

Don't get sucked in to the drama of the movie. There's no point
to watching the movie over and over. This will only suck you in
further down the spiral. Observe and Move On. 

5.COMMIT TO CHANGING DIRECTIONS 

Make a conscious choice to change the direction of your spiral.
You may write down your choice as a declaration or share it with
a friend ,loved one or your coach. Draw a line in the sand

6.KNOW THE MAKE UP OF A DOWNWARD SPIRAL 

Knowing the basic elements that is the composition of a downward
spiral will make it easier to change it's directions. Downward 
spirals are composed of "molecules of meaning" which can be 
further broken down to fear, and lack based thoughts and 
emotions. This includes such things as doubt, worry, shoulding
on yourself, jealousy ,anger , fear , frustration , etc. All of
these come together to effect who you think you are( ie.loser ,
failure, unlovable, etc.) which then determines the actions you
take and what you say out loud to yourself. All of which then 
determines what you have, as in the results with which you 
measure your life. 

7.USE THE LAW OF ATTRACION TO CHANGE THE SPIRAL'S DIRECTION 

The Law of Attraction states that "Like attracts Like." So just
like fear and lack based thoughts will attract more similar 
thoughts, the same is true of love and abundance based thoughts.
Changing your thoughts and your emotions and you change the 
direction of the downward spiral. 

8.PRACTICE PATIENCE AND PERSISTANCE 

Remember you didn't get into the downward spiral overnight, so
don't expect refusing direction to take place in an instance. 
Just asit takes time to stop a car and put it into reverse, it 
will take time before you'll see the evidence that your downward
spiral has become a spiral fulfillment. In the meantime continue
to affirm and trust that it is so. 

9.BEGIN TO GATHER EVIDENCE FOR THE TURNAROUND 

As you continue the turnaround process begin to look for
physical evidence that the process is working. Start with the
mindset that the evidence is there already and your job is to 
find it like a detector, rather than wondering whether there is
any or not. 

10.DEBRIEF,DECLARE THE ACOMPLISHMENT AND CELEBRATE 

At some point you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the
turnaround is complete. Before moving on take a few minutes to
acknowledge what you've learned from the experience, declare to 
yourself the accomplishment and celebrate it. You've made major
progress along your purposeful path. "Celebrate, Celebrate.
Dance to the Music." 

Life Purpose Coach and author, W. Bradford Swift, founded Life
On Purpose Institute and Community so that people like you who
long for a more fulfilling life will connect with like-minded
and spirited souls. 
http://www.lifeonpurpose.com

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Quotes

'What people can accomplish by themselves is almost nothing
compared to their potential when working with others.'
-John C. Maxwell

'If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of
being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of
your life.'
-Abraham Maslow

'The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your
full potential . . . these are the keys that will unlock the
door to personal excellence.'
-Eddie Robinson

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How To Speak Well 
- By Amrit Hallan 
 

Do you get tongue-tied while speaking to strangers or office-
colleagues? Or, the thought of giving a presentation/speech to a
group of people sends a rattle snake up your spine? Your voice 
turns viscous, your knees go weak, and your spirit leaves you to
stroll on another planet?

Don't worry; you are not in a minority.

The greatest of men and women have gone through this harrowing
experience. The fear of speaking is rated as only second to the
fear of snakes and before the fear of dying. Ok, I must confess
that I stole the previous line from another article.

But believe me, most of it is stereotypical. People who can
speak in the presence of many people are considered to be smart,
intelligent and outgoing; whereas those who prefer to be quiet
are considered to be not very intelligent. Effortless ability to
speak is construed as smartness. This is not so. Your
intelligence has got nothing to do with your public speaking
verve.

It's all in the attitude. Once you can make yourself believe
it's no big deal, you can speak in front of 10s, 100s, 1000s of
people. Just, don't give your mind to scary speculations. Be
yourself, be clear of your words, and try to like people sitting
in front of you.

Here are a few tips you can use to improve your speaking skills.
They can also be implemented on day-to-day work-place
interactions.

WHY DO YOU WANT TO SPEAK?

Once you know why you want to speak, your confidence gets a
boost. Is it important for your business? Is it important for
your job? Are you pursuing a noble cause that you want to
promote through your speech? Do you want to join politics in the
near future? Do you just want to put a point across?

Think hard why you want to speak and write it down on a piece of
paper and then read it again and again. Is it worth taking the
risk (the word "risk" is misplaced here, but I'm trying to drive
in a point)? If you find yourself saying "yes," then half the
battle is won.

MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS CLEAR ASSERTIVELY

You, on your own, become assertive once you know why you want to
speak. Put emphasis on your words, but don't over-do it. I
remember attending a workshop where an e-learning expert was
giving a presentation. She was so assertive that in a few
minutes she became a nuisance and everybody was feeling awkward
and funny.


MAKE EYE CONTACT

Look in the eyes of your audience. Try to make as much eye
contact as possible. It will put you at ease. It also shows
whatever you are saying you are saying it with a conviction.

BE FLEXIBLE

To keep yourself in a relaxed state, keep your body flexible.
Don't stiffen your shoulders, arms and legs. Take deep breaths.
Imagine a soothing beam of white light permeating your limbs and
feel its serene touch from within. Does it sound superfluous?

USE QUESTIONS

Asking questions makes your speaking session interactive. Get
their input. You begin to converse with your audience and this
makes you comfortable. You strike a friendly note and your
audience no longer seems intimidating. Most precarious issues in
the international politics have been resolved through two-way communication.

POSTURE WELL

Use your posture and body language to your advantage. A few
points above I had mentioned that you should keep your limbs
relaxed while talking. A relaxed posture is a good posture.


LISTEN

If you listen well, then you speak well. All good speakers are
good listeners too. If you listen, you know what other people
are thinking of. By listening, you gauge the atmosphere in the
room and adjust yourself accordingly.

Speaking is not an art, it is not a skill. It is just an
expression. The moment you are true to yourself and the people
around you, you can speak well. 


Amrit Hallan is a freelance copywriter, copy editor and a
writer. Read his weekly essays and articles by subscribing to
amritscolumn-subscribe@topica.com For Copywriting and Copy
Editing Services, visit:
http://www.amrithallan.com

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